6bc66c134120d8ae88829d2c_1920What do you do if you’ve hurt someone, intentionally or unintentionally?  Difficult as it is, your first step is to acknowledge it.  You might say something like, “I’m sorry I didn’t follow through on what I told you I’d do,” or “I apologize for not listening to you and respecting your point of view.”  Doing this requires humility, but it’s an essential first step to rebuilding trust in any relationship.

The second step is to prove, through your actions, that you mean it.  Words without actions are meaningless.

What if someone has hurt you? You must gently confront the issue and tell the person, in a non-accusing way, what hurt you.  Begin your sentence with “I”, not “you”.  For example, “I felt hurt when you were critical of me last week.  I need to know you support me and believe that I’m doing my best.”

This give and take is what healthy relationships are all about. Whether you have hurt someone else or someone else has hurt you, taking these steps will leave you with greater peace of mind.  Do this, and you will have the kind of relationships that can handle disagreements and move forward when they occur.

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