Have you ever noticed that when your confidence is low, you downplay your strengths and focus on perceived flaws? Or, that when you feel small, you act small, or not at all? When this happens your self-esteem and confidence plummets and the cycle sends you spiralling downward until you feel as if you are lost.
That simply is not true. You have gifts, attributes, and skills that are uniquely yours. And if you look back over your life, you will find that you have experienced many successes, and positively impacted others’ lives.
If you ever feel yourself minimising your positive traits then take these steps for reversing the cycle and getting back into the winner circle.
Step 1 – Celebrate your wins. By recognising your successes, whether it’s making a difficult phone call or cooking that special meal, giving yourself a pat on the back for successes – large and small – will boost your confidence. When you win, make the time to stop, celebrate and savor your achievement.
Step 2 – Learn from your mistakes. In fact don’t see them as mistakes but opportunities for learning. We all stumble especially when learning or trying something new. Trying something new is an indication of movement; we are making an effort and moving forward, even if there is a slight detour. The more we try something new, the more learning opportunities we have.
Step 3 – Keep at it. People who achieve their goals don’t stop until they’ve reached the finish line. When we want to win big, we must be willing to miss, learn and go again. With persistent and determined action, we’re guaranteed an eventual win. So, be prepared to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get going again.
So, the next time you feel your confidence slipping, remember to celebrate, learn, and keep at it. You will be glad you did.
